I'm not with these guys.
I stand in solidarity, with my gender, against blanket statements about same....
Because not all men because not all women are exactly the same...
Men have traditionally been problem solvers in service of all.
But who will help with men's problems?
Oh they don't have any, or it's their fault for being men, are not acceptable answers.
Boys will be boys forever if there are no men left, to teach them what men are.
Ladies don't get to tell us anything if they can't say it directly.
Implications and suggestions fall on deaf ears when they're couched in anger.
Your messages are hampered by your tone.
Passive Aggression means nothing to those most often exposed to Active Aggression.
Suffering IS universal. No matter how rich or poor, or what gender or race, everyone can find something about which to complain. That they are rich does not invalidate their complaint, that they are gendered does not invalidate their complaints.
Complaints are not facts or statements of obligation.
Negative statements must be made at times because swallowing too many such statements is a kind of poison.
Silence changes nothing.
Speaking in anger is the next worse thing.
Even worse than that, I had a friend, a biological female, playing at being a man,
calling herself a man, acting as if she is a man, rant at length on male obligation to act civilized, on how horrible men were for looking upon shim with lustful eyes (I'm sure they could have perceived murderous intent in same without actually verifying through investigatory conversation as well, who can say, who can tell?).
It was supremely hard not to tell her to man up.
I'm tired of being mind read.
I'm tired of having my intentions explained to me instead of explored with me.
I have no more idea what I'm doing in this world than you do.
Stop accusing me and my gender of efficient organization collaboration and collusion.
We have as many group meetings as women do.
But most of its wasted talking sports.
If anyone wants to stop being called manipulative then maybe direct ugly truth maybe.
If you want to transform the world, start with yourself and branch out to other similarly inclined people gradually improving the situation, naturally, indirectly, and collectively.
If you want to take out an entire gender or race, design a superweapon.
But don't make my problems yours, I mean your problems mine.
I'm sure we both started with the ones we needed.
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